Parenting Short Cuts Can Be Fun And Effective

A young boy sits in his room, playing with his toys.  He is humming a non-descript tune, making the melody up as he goes along.  He is the pure image of innocence, lost in his own world of make believe where everything is true, just and untainted by reality.

DR. CRAVANAUGH: (voice over) This is child psychiatrist and developmental expert Dr. Werner Cravanaugh here with a message for parents of young boys.  With the advanced intellect and adaptation many children are going through in these modern times, many new parents have inquired about methods to keep their child obedient.  While I usually tell these parents that part of their responsibility to their child is to make sure they feel heard and valued, which is the best way to keep the odds of your child rebelling in your favor, but that each child is different and will present different challenges.  Also, children must go through a rebellious phase as it is important to their sense of themselves.

However, my studies have shown that there is a practice that can give you a slight edge in the struggle for your child’s attitude and behavior, and it requires very little planning and takes minimal effort.  See here my test subject Barry.  He is an average little boy of a middle class family who lives in the suburbs of a mid-western town.  He is bright, imaginative and caring for those around him.  His parents are attentive, and the relationship between them and him is wonderful.  Barring some unforeseen trauma, Barry should grow up to continue to love and obey his parents.

But in this study, I researched tiny ways that can have lasting impacts on a child’s mind and perception.  We are about to witness one of the more successful methods here.

Notice how Barry is playing quietly by himself.  He isn’t breaking anything, or making a mess, or doing anything underhanded; he is simply a child playing.  But with a simple phrase uttered, we can make a lasting impression on young Barry.

While Barry is playing, his mother yells loudly from another room of the house.

MOTHER: (off-screen) YOU KNOW, I CAN SEE WHAT YOU’RE DOING!

Barry immediately freezes, his hand holding a truck hanging in mid-air.  He slowly looks out to his bedroom door, and then around his room, making an effort not to move to much.

DR. CRAVANAUGH: (voice over) Notice how Barry is now wary of making any movements or continuing with his previous actions.  With a simple phrase, Barry’s mother has made Barry hyper-sensitive to his surroundings.  By using this method, which I have deemed the “Parents See Everything Always” technique, a parent can keep their child well-behaved with minimal effort.

Barry slowly puts his toy truck on the floor in front of him. 

DR. CRAVANAUGH: (voice over) I hope you have enjoyed this demonstration.

A line of text appears below Barry saying: Overuse of the PSEA Technique may lead to irrational paranoia and inflict permanent damage to their sense of reality.  Use sparingly.  Barry puts his hands in his lap and simply stares into blank space.  He is no longer humming.

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